Therapy for couples & relationships
When closeness feels harder than it should
You and your relationship might look okay from the outside. Maybe it’s worked for many years — until one day, something shifted. Now, something feels off. Conflict lingers longer than it used to. Closeness feels farther away. And you’re not sure what to do.
Maybe conversations between you turn into distance or silence. Maybe small moments carry more weight than they used to. Maybe you miss feeling emotionally close — understood, at ease, and connected — but aren’t sure how to find your way back to each other.
I work with couples and people in relationships who want more than just getting by — who want a connection where everyone can show up honestly, not just the version that feels safe or acceptable.
Often, this distance isn’t about a lack of love. It’s about the ways each of you learned to protect yourselves in relationship — by staying calm, staying quiet, staying in control, or not asking for what you need.
Relationship therapy can be a place to slow down, soften these patterns, and begin finding your way back to one another.
Does this feel familiar?
Conversations go in circles — or don’t happen at all
Small issues turn into distance, silence, or lingering tension
You continue to argue about sex, household tasks, and needing your partner to show up differently
One of you reaches while the other pulls back
You want closeness, but the truth feels risky
You feel misunderstood, unseen, or emotionally alone — even together
Your frustration builds when needs go unmet or unspoken
Resolution feels hard, or happens too quickly without real repair
If any of this resonates, you’re not failing — you’re caught in patterns that once helped you cope.
Most relationship struggles aren’t about a lack of love.
They’re about the ways each of you learned to protect yourselves when things feel emotionally risky. One partner may withdraw. The other may pursue. Neither is wrong — but over time, these patterns can create distance.
Couples therapy offers space to slow down, understand what’s happening beneath the surface, and begin responding to each other with more care and clarity.
What’s it like to work with Raelynn?
Therapy with me isn’t about fixing one person or rehashing every past mistake.
Instead of replaying the same arguments or getting stuck in silence, we focus on what’s happening in real time between you — the emotions, reactions, and protective patterns that take over when things feel tense or vulnerable.
In our work together, we’ll:
Gently identify patterns that keep you feeling disconnected or misunderstood
Slow conversations down so both people can feel heard — without blame or defensiveness
Explore what each of you is protecting beneath anger, withdrawal, or overwhelm
Build emotional safety so honesty doesn’t feel so risky
Practice new ways of responding that create closeness instead of distance
This work is about slowing down together. We notice what happens between you when emotions rise — the moments where you reach for each other, pull away, go quiet, or feel misunderstood. We stay with those moments, gently exploring what’s underneath them and how to respond differently.
Over time, many relationships begin to feel:
Less reactive and more steady
Safer for honest communication
More emotionally connected
Clearer around needs, boundaries, and repair
I work with couples and all kinds of relationships who want deeper emotional connection, clearer communication, and a way forward that feels supportive rather than exhausting.
