Therapy for Couples
I work closely with couples who are stuck in painful, confusing patterns—where the same argument plays out over and over, or where true happiness feels out of reach. I help partners slow down and recognize how their nervous systems are being activated in the relationship: where fear shows up, where past wounds echo, and where old stories block new connection.
Together, we explore the complex cycles you’re caught in—not to place blame, but to build understanding, safety, and trust. I invite couples to have deeper, more vulnerable conversations, where each person gets to show up more fully—not just for their partner, but for themselves. And yes, that kind of intimacy—emotional, physical, spiritual—takes courage. It asks something of you. But if you’re willing, I’ll walk alongside you every step of the way.
my approach
In my work with couples, I help partners slow down and really see what’s happening between the dishes in the sink and the repetitive discussion about money— not just the surface-level arguments, but the deeper patterns that keep you stuck. Often, couples find themselves in cycles of conflict, distance, or silence. These patterns usually come from old wounds and protective strategies carried with us, often without even realizing it.
I draw on Internal Family Systems (IFS) to help each partner notice and understand their own parts — the hurt, protective, or reactive parts that show up in moments of stress or disconnection. What does each partner contribute to the cycle? How can we begin to break free? When we can identify and tend to these inner parts with compassion, it opens the door to more authentic connection with your partner.
Alongside this, I integrate principles of differentiation-based couples therapy (inspired by David Schnarch). This means helping each partner stay grounded in themselves, even when things feel emotionally intense. Differentiation is about being able to share your truth, hold onto your identity, and stay connected to your partner at the same time. It’s the balance of intimacy and individuality that makes relationships resilient.
What this looks like in session is:
Building tolerance to stay in hard conversations.
Slowing down recurring arguments to notice what’s really going on underneath.
Creating space for both partners to express their needs, fears, and desires clearly.
Finding communication strategies that build new pathways through tough conversations.
Discussing the impact of past patterns and wounds on current patterns.
Exploring new ideas of relationship, intimacy, and connection.
Practicing new ways of listening and responding that build safety and respect from a place of authenticity.
Supporting each partner in showing up authentically, without needing to fix or change the other.
Ultimately, my goal is to help couples move from feeling stuck in old patterns to experiencing more trust, playfulness, and intimacy. Together, we create space for both partners to be fully themselves — and to choose each other, again and again, in a deeper and more authentic way. As a couples therapist, I am warm, direct, and deep. I challenge my clients to explore every corner of their internal world to find deeper intimacy and create space for their whole selves within their relationship - even the messy, shameful, and lonely ones we may like to keep hidden away.
